Women Advice From Billy Bob Thornton…

How would you like to get women advice from the guy who married Angelina Jolie?

No, I’m not talking about Brad Pitt, I’m talking about the older, uglier dude who landed her before Golden Boy got his sloppy seconds.

I’m talking about Billy Bob Thornton.

In a recent issue of FHM (the one with naked Janet Jackson on the cover), there’s a short article about Billy Bob’s upcoming movie, School For Scoundrels.

In it, Billy Bob teaches a bunch of hopeless geeks how to be more confident and meet women…

(Kind of like what I do, but I don’t think my customers are geeks. =)

In the very short interview with Billy Bob, I found this excerpt most interesting:

From FHM Magazine:
Q: In School For Scoundrels, you teach a class of nerds how to pull chicks. What do you wish you knew before starting out with the ladies?

BBT: That you shouldn’t get married if the girl asks you. That’s happened to me a few times. With women, you have to be confident, but not cocky. They like confidence with a certain vulnerability.

Now, I agree with Billy Bob on this one.

Sure, saying “You gotta be confident” isn’t a big revelation to you, I’m certain, but hear me out…

Billy Bob makes a very good distinction here, which is confidence with cockiness, and confidence with vulnerability.

Now, what do you think he means by that?

(Don’t worry, I’m about to tell you…)

Here’s my distinction:

Cockiness is about disregarding anyone’s thoughts or emotions but your own. When you’re cocky, the only reality that matters is that which exists in your own mind.

Now, there IS something to be said for being cocky. A little bit of cockiness can be attractive in a man.

BUT…

Being vulnerable is about being emotionally available.

And as we all know: Emotions are like COCAINE to chicks! They can’t get enough of them!

Displaying a bit of vulnerability allows you to establish emotional connections with women.

THIS is what gets them “into” you.

Seriously, once a woman has established a deep emotional connection with you, you’d have to admit you’re a baby-killer to get her NOT to sleep with you!

THAT’S how powerful this stuff is!

And that’s how Billy Bob landed ol’ Angelina in the first place.

So what does this mean to you?

Well, in the course The Art Of Approaching, there are two things that no one else out there even seems to touch on:

1. How to build and establish your confidence.

2. How to create strong, lasting emotional connections with women.

Billy Bob does it naturally. you don't have to learn it the hard way.

BUT, it is learnable! Anyone can do it!

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Why It's Important To Pay Attention To Women

One of the most common complains women have about men is that they just don't PAY ATTENTION.

Seriously, have a girl ask you "Are you even listening to me????" or better yet, "You're NOT listening to me!"

C'mon. you guys all been there before.

Well, the ladies do have a point. It is very important to PAY ATTENTION.

Now, I'm not saying you gotta start listening to everything the ladies say. Actually, I'm saying that you have to start paying attention to how they RESPOND.

I call paying attention to how a woman responds to you "calibration." By allowing yourself to see how she is reacting to what you're doing, you give yourself the information you need to either escalate what's working, or fix what isn't.

This is very important.

And it ALWAYS applies, no matter what the situation. Whether you're just meeting a girl for the first time, or you're out on a date, or you're in bed together, you always want to be calibrating.

Calibration mostly has to do with the reading of body language. You gotta pay attention to the signs she's sending you (even though she may not know she's sending them!).

For instance, say you see a girl standing around with her arms crossed, and she's got a big scowl on her face, and looks like she's having the worst day of her life. That will help you decide if you want to approach her, and how to approach her.

Would you want to approach a girl when she's all closed off and negative like that? Or would you prefer to look for an easier target?

If you decide you do want to approach her, how would you go about doing it? Maybe you could ask her "What's wrong, you look like you lost your best friend?" Then go about cheering her up or making her laugh.

When you're talking to a girl, pay attention to what she's giving you. Is she leaning back? Looking away? Not really engaging in conversation? Then she's not that into what you have to offer her.

But what if she's leaning forward? Are her pupils dilated? Is her head tilted? Is she playing with her hair? Smiling a lot? Is she touching you?

If so, then chances are what you're doing is working and you should be doing more of it.

Women will tell you exactly what you need to do to get them. You just have to PAY ATTENTION!

Once you've got that down, you'll be able to tailor your approaches to each individual woman and make them much more effective!

If you want to learn how to meet any woman you want, no matter what your looks, age, or financial standing may be, check out the book The Art Of Approaching right now by clicking below:

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After all, meeting a woman is the first step to romance!

And if you REALLY want to supercharge your success with women, be sure to take a look at the Advanced Course here!

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Easy Conversation Tactics

Think about this:

What is some of the most awkward situations you can be in?

Most people would agree, it's 'Uncomfortable Silences'.

What if you trained yourself to NEVER be uncomfortable during these embarrassing situations.

Or better yet...

What if you learned to use them to your advantage? Guess what, that's a VERY novice technique.

Meeting women is really the art of starting a conversation, and keeping that conversation moving in an interesting direction.

Too often, guys will "open" a girl, only to run out of things to say to her.

But when you know how to "stack" your openers so your conversation keeps flowing effortlessly, you'll be surprised how easy it is to keep a girl interested in you.

In the Art Of Approaching course, you will learn simple techniques like this that will COMPLETELY blow your mind. And I believe in that so much ...

Seriously. These will be the best darn dating techniques you've ever read,

See how, right here:

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How To Meet A Woman When She's With Her Friends

Some of my guy friends have been asking me : How to make friend with her when she's with her friends?"

Let me make one thing clear right now that you must understand before you go out trying to meet women:

WOMEN OF BEAUTY ARE NEVER ALONE!!!!!

You heard me right. Pretty girls have a very high social status.

They are almost always surrounded by people, be they girlfriends, boyfriends, male "nice guy" friends, brothers, sisters, parents -whatever! They will always be in groups of people.

It is very rare to see beautiful women alone. And when they are alone, they're usually waiting for someone!

The common term I refer to people who like to hang around with beautiful women is: OBSTACLES.

If you imagine you're on a race track, and at the end of the track is this girl you want to meet, all the rocks, hurdles, holes, and booby traps between you and her are OBSTACLES that can ruin your chances of meeting her.

But there is a way to navigate that minefield and avoid all these obstacles! That way is called:

GROUP THEORY.

Group theory is a system by which you actually address the girl's friends instead of trying to ignore them.

Through group theory, you win over the girls peer group and turn them into YOUR support group.

Here's how it works...

The girl you want to meet is always with her friend, right? And you're worried that you can't approach the girl you like because the friend will interfere in some way.

So what you do is forget about the girl you like, and approach her friend first!

That's right...

YOU FORGET ABOUT THE GIRL YOU LIKE AND APPROACH HER FRIEND FIRST!

Now, this doesn't mean you're going to try and pick-up the obstacle instead of the girl you really like.

It just means you're going to overcome that obstacle before you reach for your prize!

Remember: You must disarm a land mine before you step on it!

You do this by acting disinterested in the girl you're really interested in, and focus on winning over the girl you don't really care for!

Then, once you've won over the obstacle, you ask if you can "borrow" her friend for a minute because you've been neglecting her.

Once her friend gives you approval to talk to her alone, guess what? You've just gotten her STAMP of approval!

This means that the girl you like has no reason NOT to talk to you!

Then, you pull her off to the side, and work your magic one-on-one.

There are more group theory and various other tactics on meeting women in the book The Art Of Approaching: How To Meet Any Woman, Any Time, Anywhere You May Be!

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Don't be afraid

When it comes to your relationship with your ex, are you afraid to put yourself out there? Would you like to ask them out again, but you just don't want to risk the rejection?

If you are, I don't blame you. It can be nerve wrecking and sometimes it feels like the risks are just too high.

What if your ex doesn't feel the same way you do?

What if your ex doesn't respond?

But then again, what if your ex does feel the same way and has been afraid to take the first step as well?

What if your ex *would* respond positively and both of you could take the next step towards reuniting?

If you ask me, the risks are worth it. It's worth giving it a try.

There's two ways you can go about it.

The obvious way: You can simply contact your ex and ask them if they would like to go out sometime. Depending on your circumstances, this may or may not be a good idea. If you feel you both have reached a point in your reconciliation where it is safe - go for it. If you're unsure, then try something a little more
subtle.

The subtle way: Next time you are talking with your ex, say something like - "I'm starving, want to go grab a bite"? It's less formal, and it moves things forward without putting yourself out there *too much*. That's just an example, but it works with any situation. Pick an activity your ex enjoys. "I'm going for a run later, want to join me"? "I have to go shopping at the mall later, want to join me?" You know your ex better and you know what he/she likes and doesn't like. But you get the picture.

In order to get back together with your ex, action will need to take place. At some point, either you or your ex is going to have to accept the risk and *go for it*.

How do you get to the point from breakup to being able to ask your ex out again?

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What Women Want In A Relationship

Now that's a loaded question if I ever heard one, lol.

Here's the thing...

Different women have different expectations about what they want from a man and a relationship.

For example, a young woman may not know what she wants in a relationship simply because she isn't experienced enough to know what's important to her yet.

A more mature woman, one who's been in a lot of different relationships, may know exactly what she's looking for
in a relationship.

But there's one thing all types of women know about before they get into a relationship...

They know what they're ATTRACTED to!

See, the female mind processes things in this manner:

1. Is there something attracting me to this man?

2. Will this man be a good fit for me in the long term?

Usually, number 1 will kick in almost immediately within the first few minutes of meeting a man. They'll start evaluating the man's attraction quotient.

Number two won't kick in until number one has been met.

This means that if you can get a woman really turned on, or even in bed, then she'll immediately start evaluating you
based on your potential for a long term relationship.

Women who try and do this backwards, by getting into a relationship and hoping the attraction will grow, usually end
up disappointed.

When it comes to what women are actually looking for in a relationship, you can expect these factors to come into play:

1. How well does the man treat her?
2. What is the level of attraction occurring?
3. How good is he in bed?
4. How strong is the emotional connection?
5. How good of a provider is he?

Let's quickly go through these five female relationship factors...

The first factor can be misleading. All women want to be treated well, but they don't necessarily want to be treated like goddesses to be fawned over.

(Sure, that's okay from time to time, but too much of a good thing is a bad thing...)

Women want to feel like the man they are with is loving and strong. So if you treat them in a way where they know you care, know they are safe, but know you won't take their bullcrap, they will feel well treated.

The next factor has to do with what we discussed earlier. If they are still feeling sexual attraction towards you, then this factor is met. But if things have fizzled, this could be a deal breaker.

Most women aren't used to having men who are good in bed. So if you can please her between the sheets, then chances are she'll see you as a "keeper."

If there is a strong emotional connection, a woman will want to be around you. She will feel connected to you and want to please you. This is a very important factor in any relationship.

Women who don't have a strong emotional connection to the men they are in a relationship with will tend to cheat on
them, because they aren't being fulfilled emotionally.

Finally, a man who is a good provider will make a woman feel safe and cared for.

Many women will gravitate towards men who can pay their bills, even if all the other relationship factors are absent.

But this doesn't mean that type of relationship is a happy or stable one (for either party).

Showing a woman you're a good provider is probably the least important factor in a strong relationship, but it is still a
factor.

But the first step you need to be aware of before you can even begin to THINK about relationships, is the initial ATTRACTION phase.

And that phase starts with how you MEET her.

I personally believe that any man has the potential to attract any woman.

If they know what to do.

In the book, The Art Of Approaching, you're going to learn some super-ninja techniques that will lay the foundation for a great relationship.

You'll learn how to plant the initial seeds of attraction that will blossom into a good relationship.

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Do You Suffer From "Nice Guy" Syndrome?

Guys, I have a question for you...

Have you ever heard that old adage "Nice Guys Finish Last?"

Well, I'm here to tell you that saying is 100% true! But not for the reasons you may think.

Being a "Nice Guy" with women doesn't work, not because you get too caught up in what a girl wants and get stuck as a friend, but because Nice Guys are typically very, very...

SELFISH!

That's right. When you're a "Nice Guy," you're not really being nice, you're being EMOTIONALLY GREEDY.

Let me explain...

One of the biggest problems guys who are struggling with women face is something I like to call "the Nice Guy factor."

So many guys have such a weak identity and so little self-esteem, that they base their own self-worth on what other
people THINK OF THEM.

These guys are at the mercy of everyone else in their lives, so they try their best to please the people around them,
hoping they'll continue to think highly of them, so they can feel good about themselves. That's not so bad, right?
It feels good when others approve of you, doesn't it?

Most people look at this behavior and would instantly categorize these poor men in the "Nice Guys" column.

After all, they're the ones who don't like conflict. They're the ones who don't want to make waves. They're the
ones who want everyone to be happy.

They are also some of the most selfish people on the planet.

Seriously. I know this because I used to be one of these people, and I know all their dirty little secrets!

And the point of this newsletter is to make everyone who thinks of themselves as "nice" or as a "victim" really, really
pissed off!!!

All of you "Nice Guys" out there reading this are nothing more than "people pleasers." Somewhere in your life, you found out thatpleasing people is a way to get other people to like you and admire you so you can feel good about yourself.

Whether it was the acclaim of your parents, or the acceptance of your friends, somewhere in your time on this planet YOU LEARNED to feel good based on what other people think of you.

But I'm here to tell you that using other people's feelings and goodwill like that is not only harmful, but dishonest!

Anyone who says "I can't stand conflict!" or "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!" should do us all a favor and move to the planet "Ideal" where life is wonderful, we all have transparent heads, and there is no war.

Only on this planet will you be able to find that everyone is willing to give you the moral support you need.

But that's the crux of the issue right there. All you "Nice Guys" have a losing mentality about your need for support. Your methodology is: "I am so loving and giving and nice, I expect you to treat me the exact same way as
I treat you!"

Here is the typical thought process of Nice Guys:

--"Don't disagree with me! It's not fair because I do so much for you!!!"

--"Please be sympathetic and comfort me when I'm upset! I'm needy and can't comfort myself."

--"Always be in a good mood. I am always trying to make you happy and if I can't, I feel ashamed and mad at you!"

--"Pay attention to me when I need it! I've earned it after all I've done for you!!!!"

--"Take care of me by doing what I'm afraid to do! I take care of you, so you need to return the favour!!!!"

Look at those thoughts above, and ask yourself "If someone was saying that to me, how would I react?"

Now you know where women are coming from when they don't want to have relationships with "Nice Guys."

Once that happens and the needy demands of "Nice Guys" go unmet, they fall into the deep pits of self-pity and depression.

They also feel a lot of shame and anger at their failure to please the women they want, and though these "Nice Guys" can keep their pleasant demeanor up for a long time, their resentment of the women they want to please will grow and grow until it explodes in anger and rage, either directed at others, themselves, or both.

This kind of mentality can extremely damage your self respect and cause others to not want to be around you.

So what's a "Nice Guy" to do?

If you want to have success with women, you need to stop being agreeable and instead be straightforward and honest, especially when you have to go against the wishes of others and disappoint them. You can do this with
kindness and sensitivity, but you MUST do this nonetheless.

Only by being honest, with yourself and with others, will you be able to overcome the selfish "nice guy" habits you have adopted in your life.

And when you do this, you will stop caring about what other people think of you because the source of your validation comes from the fact that you're being true to yourself and straightforward with others, and you will cease to harbor resentment and anger, and have more self respect and less depression.

That is the only way I have found to truly stop being a "Nice Guy" and become the type of man other people can respect.

It can be hard being honest with others (especially yourself), but in the end it is far more rewarding than any other
behavior you can adopt.

Your first step on the road to being that type of guy should be to read the book The Art of Approaching.